I’ve always wondered why we, as Americans, shun sexual content but are pretty much okay with violence. This seems to be a general rule, but it’s particularly true of the content that we let our kids consume. In Europe, the attitudes are basically reversed. They also have much lower rates of teen pregnancy and violent crime. So on the basis of that data, it looks like teaching kids openly and honestly about sex, rather than teaching them that’s dirty and will kill them, causes them to either not have sex or to do it responsibly. It also looks like exposing people, kids in particular, to violent images results in more violent crime. Interestingly, Europe is also tremendously less religious than America.
I always thought that our attitudes about sex and violence were the result of our Puritan heritage. While that’s probably true to a certain degree, it turns out that there’s a solid legal precedent for our stance. In an article in the January 10th issue of Time magazine, University of Chicago law professor Geoffrey Stone says, “There is no recognized constitutional principle that allows the government to shield children from violent expression” but there are well defined standards that block sexual content. Plus it’s simpler to categorize sex acts than violent ones, which makes it easier to specify what’s okay and what’s not in laws and policies.
The Time article is really about an effort by the Democratic governor of Illinois to impose fines on retailers who sell or rent games with certain sexual or violent content to minors. Personally, I’m appalled by this. It is the responsibility of the parents to police their children’s activities. You can’t legislate morality and you can’t legislate good parenting, but if parents think it’s okay for their 8-year-olds to play games that involve beating up prostitutes, if they can’t say “No” to their kids, then we as a society have fallen down on the job.
Video games are rated by an industry group, very similar to the way movies are rated. The ratings for games are clear and frequently are more descriptive of why the game received its rating than movie ratings. It’s true that retailers need to check ID before renting or selling games rated for adults in the same way they check ID before selling a pack of cigarettes or tickets to an R movie. (I noticed today that Best Buy does check IDs).
But some of the things parents say in the article are just ludicrous. One man, father of a six-year old boy, compares the governor’s proposal to laws against selling tobacco to minors, saying that in both cases parents need the government’s help to keep contraband out of their children’s hands. It sounds to me like he’s saying that he can’t be bothered to police his children and would someone please do it for him. What we really need are responsible retailers. I bought cigarettes in high school without a problem but got carded well after college. The difference? Responsible retailers.
Another father says of his 16-year-old son, “He can certainly separate reality from the fiction of those things.” I disagree. 16-year-olds are not adults. The vast majority of them lack the abstract reasoning capacity to learn calculus. A kid at this age will say that he understands the difference between fantasy and reality, but I don’t think he really, truly does. It’s like someone who honestly thinks he’s not prejudiced but still tells jokes that involve the N-word.
This attitude that kids are more mature than they really are is also apparent in a mother from Texas who lets her two boys, ages 9 and 15, play Grand Theft Auto, the game that involves beating up hookers. She says, “I want to raise my kids with a sense that I trust them to be good and to know how to set their own limits.” You, ma’am, are a bad parent! A 9-year-old doesn’t know the first thing about his own limits—he’ll eat Oreos until he pukes.
Sadly, this approach is indicative of an attitude prevalent in Baby Boom parents. They hated their parents for being disciplinarians, so they resolved instead to be friends to their children. Teenagers are supposed to hate their parents, get over it. Children of all ages need limits, discipline, and parental involvement. I typically hate those “anti-drug” commercials, but the ones encouraging parents to know their kids, to discipline them for being bad, and to not be afraid of disciplining them are right on the money. The parents of Eric Harris and Dylan Klebold tried to be friends to their sons and let them do their own thing, and we all know what happened. I’m not saying the parents are solely to blame, but a little more involvement and they would have found the boys’ collection of firearms and pipe bombs.
The bottom line here is that parents need to be involved in their children’s lives. They need to screen everything their children consume, from food…